I was in a grocery store the other day and I was eavesdropping in on a conversation between an elderly woman and a young sales clerk. This young man listened intently to the woman and her question, and it expanded…

A tree doesn't grow simply because it reaches up to the sun, it grows because it reaches deep down into the earth. Have you ever tried to reach for a goal, and maybe you attained it but it didn't last?…

"She's so..  he always... she'll never... I always... " The list goes on. Have you ever stopped to notice how much you assume, judge and predict the world based on the past? It's a natural human tendency. We had to…

Sweaty palms, tight throat, tense muscles, racing mind: "What if they don't like me?" "What if I mess it up?" What if they get angry, turn away, disagree with me? "What if I don't get the job?" Does any of…

Hello Everyone, I hope you are all well and enjoying everything that comes with spring... a new season, a new stage, in this ever-evolving life. I have a few things on the go lately. I am excited to be offering…

Good morning from Kent, England where I have been travelling now for 2 weeks visiting relatives, seeing sacred sites, and generally enjoying the land of my birth. Oh, and I pitched my book to Hay House Publishing! It is called…

Stuck in a loop of angry thoughts. Going over and over scenarios, yelling at the injustice of it all. I can’t believe they did that. I can’t believe this is happening. How could they be so hurtful, stupid, unaware?Do you find yourself in…

Good Morning Magical Beings, Yes you are magical.  You have the ability to feel (for better or worse!), to create and to be alive. Am I wrong?Today’s post feels important and I’ll start with a question: How did you learn what…

Last time I told you I was going to talk about how feeling all your feelings does NOT mean you are dysregulated in your nervous system. That is super important, but this feels more important today: using your voice. Your…

I hope you are enjoying this series on boundaries so far and if you are just tuning in, check back at the posts to see what you have missed. Have you been able to identify where you land most of the…

Hello Beautiful Nervous Systems,I know you are much more than a nervous system, but today I am speaking to who is running the show: your nervous system.You may have just passed American Thanksgiving. How did it go?You might be anticipating…

We can’t discuss boundaries without talking about conflict at some point.Conflict! Such a loaded word for so many people, and we all have so many different reactions to it.Hiding, fighting, peace-keeping, freezing. A lot of how we respond to conflict…

I’m not a victim, I’m a survivor!Indeed you are. But either of these labels can also get you stuck there in the same agitated nervous system state.The victim will recoil, have stories of resentment, worry and shame. They won’t be…

A few weeks ago I was interviewing someone for my podcast and usually I am right on point. I have a flow, I know where we are going. I ask the right questions to get us there. But I started feeling…

Embodied Boundaries Part 2. You may be so good at setting boundaries and speaking your mind when it come to protecting other people. Your kids, your friends, or vulnerable groups in the world. You march into your child’s parent-teacher meeting and state…